It Comes With The Terriritory
"You know what it is Eb? You don’t have regular dreams like most people kid. Instead, you have big dreams. You get so excited and passionate about your dreams that you are ready to jump from the 24th floor without hesitation every single time. Most people jump from the second floor but you kid, you jump from the highest floor there is kid and that’s why when things don’t go as planned, it hurts you the hardest. But you gotta understand that it comes with the territory". As soon as T was finished, it felt like a light switch went off. My personal AHAA moment. Granted I laugh so hard because it was funny as hell and I also needed a good laugh but it was also true.
I recently made one of the hardest decisions for my business and it literally took a toll on me physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. Instead of me just admitting to myself that it was time for me to let it go, my pride was like nah girl keep going. Being an entrepreneur isn’t easy and there will be times when you will have to put your big girl panties on and do what’s best for your business and not your pride. If you can’t be real with yourself, then who can you honestly be real with? Who Sway Who? Here are some lessons that I learned during one of my hardest decisions:
One of the most important lessons I learned during this difficult decision is that you have to follow your gut. My gut was telling me that something didn’t feel right, but did I listen? Nope. I went against my own judgment and kept going even though the warnings were there. So I can’t get mad at anyone else but myself. When something is not right, there will be so many signs and what did I do, I completely ignored them. So technically, I deserved everything that came my way because all of this could have been avoided. As the ole' saying goes, "If you knew better, you do better".
If you can’t do it by yourself don’t do it all. I’m not saying that all partnerships are bad but you have to be ready mentally and financially if your business partner decides to go ghost on you. You will be surprised what people will do or say when you are not around, which I had to learn the hard way. People are human and when the pressure is applied, you realize who is built for it and who is not. I learned that to avoid having my back up against the wall, eliminate the opportunities for it to happen. I know that I’m built for whatever battle that comes my way but if you have to question your potential business partner, it’s a dub. For those of you that don’t know what a dub is, it means it’s a NO.
I was so focused on the possibility of making a lot of money that I lost focus on what was important. Which leads me to the next lesson I learned, if you are doing it for money, you are doing it for the wrong reasons. Lord knows I’m all about my coints but I had to learn the hard way that if your main focus is money, you won’t get far. By worrying about the amount of money I could possibly make, it no longer was fun for me. It didn’t excite me and it was stressing me the hell out. Plus, I also think that anything that you are passionate about, the money will find you. Perfect the craft and the money will soon come.
When are you faced with difficult decisions it’s best to consult with your homegirls. All my homegirls are different from one another but I know they have my best interest at heart. I get so emotional and caught up in my feelings and I am literally all over the place, but my homegirls keep me grounded. You need people around you that are going to keep you level minded and focus through all the bullshit that’s around you. I can’t thank my girls enough for seeing me through this difficult time!
BTW, my boyfriend has been very instrumental in making sure that I get back to focus on what's important and I think that is key. So if your MCM isn't motivating you to keep on track and to push through any obstacles, it's time to find a new one.
I hope that the lessons that I learned will encourage you to do what's best for your business. I know it's not easy but stay focused and don't fold.